This is a true story, in fact it happened a lot more recently than you think. I bet some of you will probably go like TLDR but it would be much appreciated if you take about 5~10 minutes to read my story. I promise that you'll return to your free ways when you're done.
It was a nice weekend afternoon, and I was in the mood to play some MapleStory 2 to wind down (don't judge me). Upon logging on, I saw in the chat box that someone was recruiting new members for her guild specifically for English-speaking players (keep in mind I'm currently in Korea). Being a native speaker in the language, I contacted her without hesitation and under a minute I was one of them. I started introducing myself to the guild members, not only who I am but also my experience with the first MapleStory, where I live, my proficiency in Korean from a scale of 1 to 10, etc. I can't remember the last time I was this social with others; one of the members even taught me the virtual house feature in the game. I anticipated everlasting friendship and maybe a relationship if I got lucky enough.
One day, while playing MapleStory 2 with my new guild friends, the leader asked if anyone wanted to join her in a party quest. All so eager to take my affiliation with the guild further, I agreed to join without hesitation. But here is when things turned for the worse: Upon arriving at the map where the entrance to the party quest is, I told the party leader (the guild leader who invited me to her party for the party quest prior) that I arrived, but then this one guy nearby out of nowhere responded with "No you're not". Of course, saying "I'm here" harmlessly is nothing to lose your mind over, yet this guy suddenly acts like if he recognized me as some old college rival or something. I was enraged by the fact that I said something harmless and it backfired. Instead of being silent, I told him what was right, that what he said was totally uncalled for. He continued to talk shit and act like a disrespectful immature smartass before the party quest began. I looked forward to happily playing with my new friends, but this guy just ruined the mood. Unable to put up with his attitude, I left the party early. I then scolded him online for being a total dick earlier, then unexpectedly he responded me with more of that disrespectful immature smartass attitude of his. I managed to hold my anger thoe behind the machine. I thought after I block the guy, this thing will be just a mere nightmare to laugh at in my head. Looking into Discord (which the guild leader also invited me to) however, I realized that that same guy screen captured my messages for all the guild members to see, presumably for the sake of humiliating me and falsely making ME look like the bad guy. At this point, I snapped. I recall someone in the guild that guy isn't one of them, looks like he lied.
The rage lasted for quite a while until I apologized to the guild members for losing my mind earlier. After the apology, it was a lot easier to let the episode go. According to the guild members, this person was apparently the top English-speaking thief (one of the jobs in the MMORPG) in the game. Hearing this, I got a bit of a better understanding of his attitude, and reassured myself a bit altogether. I tried to ignore him as much as I can and enjoy the game like I'm supposed to. But still a part of me was reconsidering my affiliation with these new people, because this guy continued to talk shit at me through Discord, even when I was trying to seriously reason with him.
That guy who dissed me for no reason earlier happened to contact me via Discord. I casually responded, expecting the worst. Big mistake. He started insulting me about my looks, calling me a weeaboo and the like, even going as far as telling my art is shit. I started to think he isn't actually teasing like the guild members told me but now it's clear that he really genuinely wants to make me miserable; I concluded that the guild members have betrayed me. Those nasty messages were there for all to see; you'd think at least one person would stick up for me; question his disrespectful attitude and reconsider his affiliation with their circle; threaten to kick him out if he continued his bullshit, but no one ever did, suggesting that they all have always been on his side to start with and hid that fact from me.
Enraged and appalled, I logged in to have a word with the members, criticizing them for defending an obvious immature manchild who acts a quarter his biological age. In response, they told me he's "important" and no one can expel him from the guild nor the chat room in Discord because he apparently founded the latter in the first place. I think they just lied to me again and just finding another bullshit excuse to keep this immature little smartass in their circle and continue sucking up to him and condone his immature little smartass ways the same. I do also recall that they merely described him as "hardcore as fk", and rather, they questioned me instead for being "sensitive". Yeah, because the idea of being "hardcore" (or in other words "tough") is being an obvious douche bag apparently. Last time I checked, it meant having backbone. I know a clear-cut douche bag when I see one, anyone with a pair of eyes can, no matter what your true colors are; it doesn't matter if you're prone to tears or fearless as a marine, anyone can identify a smartass like him, but apparently the guild members do not. Either that or even worse they respect him BECAUSE he is an immature douche bag. I bet it's the latter.
Speechless and appalled, my verdict was final. I cut off all communication with these people I wrongly referred to as my "new friends". The so-called "everlasting friendship" I hoped for was all a comforting lie. I introduced myself to a bunch of liars, I learned a game feature from a liar, I sincerely apologized to a bunch of liars, I was in a guild with a bunch of liars. There was an obvious douche bag in their circle yet no one ever questioned his disrespectful smartass attitude and when I point out what's clearly true, I get all the blame and they defend said douchebag by allegedly describing him as "hardcore as fk". I never started this conflict with this guy in the first place nor did I ever intend to, yet apparently it's all my fault. Some logic there. This is one of the worst betrayals I have ever experienced in 10 years.
Conclusion: No matter what social group I join, there always seems to be that one person who wants you to gtfo for some reason. And even when it's obvious, if you're unlucky enough, others suck up to this person the same without even bothering to reconsider his/her affiliation. There is no shortage of clear-cut douche bags/bitches, yet hardly anyone if not nobody ever questions their disrespectful attitudes. The only people worse than assholes are those who suck up to them for no reason. I've been in these situations a few times in my life, and it's borderline unbearable. People like that immature smartass are the reason why I hardly interact with people. Sometimes I do something with good intentions only to backfire completely.
Well there you go, there's my story.